Yes, And

I just had yet another interaction with an angry, bitter ex-evangelical. In this case, telling those of us who endeavor to remain followers of Christ we are stupid and wrong. And, look, I get it. You know I’ve written extensively about my doubts about this entire faith thing, my lack of faith, my annoyance atContinue reading “Yes, And”

How to Friend, Part One

Our culture pretty much worships the romantic relationship. It is topic of millions of hit songs, movies, books. The dating industry is bigger than the economies of some small countries. Weddings are billed as the pinnacle of life. (However, Dateline NBC almost exclusively tells stories of people murdered by their romantic partners, and the podcastContinue reading “How to Friend, Part One”

What Makes the Church Uniquely Corruptible

I’ve known one (almost certain) murderer in my life, and he was a missionary. I won’t go into the details here–the case was never subject to any legal system, and therefore there is no way to prove it–but it was widely assumed in my circles that he was indeed guilty of that crime. It’s notContinue reading “What Makes the Church Uniquely Corruptible”

You are that man

You told me non-Christians were the problem. You told me Christians were always better. You taught me to look for the fish on the sign to know a business wouldn’t cheat me. You bought me Christian music and books and movies. You sent me to Christian schools and did Christian work and did all theContinue reading “You are that man”

They Know Not What They Do

Easter has come and gone since the last time I posted, and like Christmas/Advent, my Easters are often tinged with disappointment and discomfort, as I struggle to believe and to feel the joy and certainty of so many Christians I see around me. “HE IS RISEN!” they say and post on social media, in everyContinue reading “They Know Not What They Do”

Learning to be curious, not judgmental

If you’re not watching Ted Lasso, you need to get on it. Every episode (except for that weird dream-like sequence involving Coach Beard–just skip that one) is like a meditation on leadership, vulnerability, character, and relationship. This is the only show I’ve ever watched that will literally make you a better person. Not even kidding.Continue reading “Learning to be curious, not judgmental”

Zelensky’s children

I, like the rest of the civilized world, have found a new hero, Ukrainian President Voldomeyer Zelensky. How can you not be inspired by a leader who refuses to abandon his people, at great risk to his own life, who perfectly frames the moral stakes of a great conflict, who so powerfully articulates a loveContinue reading “Zelensky’s children”